When I decided to follow the “minimalist” lifestyle, the first thing that came to mind was to declutter my environment. I donated and threw away many of my belongings that I no longer needed but was only taking up space. The second change was to do some serious thinking – more of a cleaning process of my mind and through that process, I felt lost.
Throughout my life, I’ve always had a clear goal – I graduated college, obtained a master’s degree, earned a CPA, and finally settled in a stable job. I’ve also built my own family – I got married to my loving husband, became a mom of two beautiful kids, and finally bought a house in a nice neighborhood. Sounds like a life where there is nothing to complain about right? But, suddenly, I wasn’t so sure– What was it that I was working so hard for? Perhaps, I wanted to belong to a life where others view as “successful” and thought if I get there I will be happy. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying I’m living an unhappy life. What I am saying though is maybe I don’t have it all figured out.
When you feel lost in life, people say you should look for your passion. The main reason you are feeling empty and lost is because you are not living your full potential. You should take action and do what you are really meant to do. I’ve read many success stories where people courageously quit their 9-5 job and they have never been happier. They take ownership in life and suddenly everything seems to be falling into place. But what if you are not sure of your passion? What if you have doubts that you may never find it? At which point, should you go “all-in” and make that drastic change?
I’ll be honest. Yes, I am scared to go “all-in” and hope I’m not alone. This may sound like an excuse, but I actually do have good reasons to why. First of all, I have a family to support and debts to pay-off. Truthfully, reducing from double to one income will create a financial burden and I’m not sure if I’m ready to go through that in means of finding my passion. Further, it is quite difficult to throw away what I worked so hard for, overnight. It took me a while to get to where I am, so “starting over” is not an easy decision to make. And finally, there’s no guarantee that I will ever find my passion and even so I did, there is no promise that I will succeed.
So, here’s what I decided to do. If you are like me, feeling lost and not sure what is ahead of you but too afraid to make that drastic move today, I hope you find this posting helpful. 🙂
#1 REMIND YOURSELF – “IT’S OKAY”
We all have our responsibilities and different circumstances. So, it’s okay not to be that courageous person who gave 2 week notice to your boss. It’s okay not to know your passion and be lost. I think the point is “awareness.” Being aware that you have something better inside you, something more to than what you are today, is a good start.
#2 SET A TIMELINE
I think this is important. I don’t think there’s a right way to find your passion (e.g. you can go on a trip, meditate, or take classes, etc.). However, you should have a clear timeline by when you are ready to be fully committed to your passion. Starting a blog was my way of finding my passion and so far, I’m enjoying it. Also, instead of quitting my job today, I came up with a plan which is a visual timeline that will guide me through the way.
#3 ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU MAY NOT SUCCEED
As I mentioned, there is no guarantee that the outcome of this whole journey will be successful. Instead of fearing for the negative, why not focus on today. What can you do today that will eventually help you to get closer to your passion. In life, good things happen and also bad and lot of times we have no control over them. Let’s acknowledge that from the get-go, and give it our best because at the end of the day, it should really be about the process and not the result.
For me, my passion seems to be on “simplifying” things – downsizing my possessions, organizing information to bullet points, and decluttering negative and unnecessary thoughts. Every day, I try to do at least one thing what I believe will get me closer to where I dream to be in the future. It can be as minor as cleaning my house or writing a post on my blog. With my preparation and clear visual timeline, I am planning to quit my full-time job in 2 years and, in fact, counting down from the day I created this website. What is your plan? 🙂
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